May 17, 2012

Bon Voyage!

Starting tomorrow, I will be offline for several days soaking up the Caribbean sun and trying not to burn. But don’t worry, because I have some excellent guest bloggers lined up for Guest Blogger’s Month in February. They range from up-and-comers to freelancers who have contributed to US Airways magazine and the New York Times. There’s a self-titled suburban muse, a set of twin translators, and a few newly pubbed authors in the mix.

Once I return, I plan to pop in here and there with a few posts of my own, but either way I hope that you’ll continue reading and commenting for my guest bloggers. And if you want to contribute a guest post but haven’t had a chance to contact me, then shoot me an email with “February blogger” in the subject line and I’ll schedule your post after I get caught up on email.

Happy writing!

Photo courtesy of Andries3

The Paradox of Writing Personal Essays

True to my new year’s resolution, I’ve been working diligently on a couple of personal essays. One essay has already been workshopped, polished, and submitted to my dream market *fingers crossed.* I find essay writing to be a therapeutic process (after I finished my most recent essay, I even slept better for several nights), but it can also be emotionally grueling.

Those freelancers who write personal essays in addition to other genres know what I mean.

As freelance writers, we’re used to rejection. In fact, those of us who’ve been at for awhile have learned to create a healthy distance between our success as a writer and our own self-worth. After all, especially in this climate, the decision of whether or not to publish an article often has more to do with business considerations (advertising space, reader demographics, etc.) than creative ones. We understand this, and we’ve cultivated a thick skin to compensate.

But writing an effective personal essay requires us to tap into a deeper emotional consciousness. It requires us to bare our secret vulnerabilities and desires. And, unfortunately, that scary feeling of complete vulnerability doesn’t end once you get an acceptance. Frankly, reader reactions can be even scarier than editors’.

Of the three essays I’ve published in the past year or so, two of them elicited a very strong reaction, both positively and negatively. Some people wrote to me saying, “I’ve been in that situation and your essay captured exactly what I felt.” Others told me, “you’ll never work in this town again!” and “you liberals are going to hell.” Such is the cost of putting your writing out there, but getting that kind of reaction shows that you’ve hit on an important topic.

Scarier still are the reactions from the people you’ve actually written about. The essay I’m currently shopping around includes snippets of conversations I had with my boyfriend and two other friends after my Dad died. I showed the essay to all three of them and everyone graciously gave me their blessings to publish the piece. Phew!

Whenever you’re writing about real people from your own life (rather than reporting on events or people outside your personal sphere), the boundaries can get a little blurry. Here are my suggestions on handling this gray area:

  1. Ask, even if the essays seems innocuous to you. Some people are move private than others. My boyfriend keeps a low profile online, so I worried that he might not want to appear in the essay at all. Taking him out would have required massive rewrites and restructuring, but I felt he needed to see the piece in its entirety before he gave his opinion. Fortunately, he was flattered (“no one has ever written about me!”) and bought me a very thoughtful birthday gift based on a detail I’d chosen to include in the essay. Boyfriends/husbands of writers: take note!
  2. Respect other peoples’ privacy. Though the boyfriend was flattered, there was one detail he felt revealed TMI (too much information), so I took it out. It’s important for the people in my life to understand that just because I blog and write essays, I’m not going to indiscriminately share all the juicy (and mundane) details of our private life. With essays, I only use real life details or snippets of conversation to illustrate a larger point. Another writer, Jody Mace, actually gives her kids a cut of her fee when she publishes an essay that mentions her kids.
  3. Be clear that you’re asking for their permission, not a critique. You need to ask to ensure peoples’ comfort levels, but you don’t want to give them free rein to rewrite according to their own perspective. Everyone will remember the same events in a slightly different way, but if you’re writing the essay, then it’s your memories that matter. In one case, I asked to friend to help me remember the singer of a song we listened to during one scene, but I didn’t ask her if she felt there was too much dialogue or if it needed a better ending. I enlisted the help of another (impartial) writer for questions like that.
  4. When in doubt, don’t name names. Some publications will allow you to rename people in your essays to protect their privacy (for instance, “let’s call the guy I dated in college Bob”). Others won’t, because after all, essays are supposed to be true. Sometimes you can get away with simple saying “my friend this” or “my cousin that.” That can get confusing if you introduce too many characters, so you can also create nicknames for people, like this “Modern Love” column nicknames a man in her life “The Engineer.”

What’s your feeling on personal essays? Would you ever publish something that might upset people in your personal life if you felt the story needed to be told? Would you write it under a pseudonym? What about people who are no longer in your life?

Flickr photo courtesy of tomsaint11

Organizing Ideas for Articles

Freelance Switch just posted my piece on 50 ways for writers to find article articles. Consider this a continuation…

Once the floodgates open and you’ve started coming up with ideas for articles, you’ll obviously need a place to record them, organize them, and refer to them later. I tend to scribble my ideas in a little notebook where they often get buried amidst grocery lists, phone numbers, and to do lists. I have no doubt that this method has allowed more than a few saleable ideas slip through the cracks, so this year I’ve vowed to reform. A creative mind is no excuse for a messy notebook or desk or files.

Here is the new spreadsheet tracking system I came up with. This is a separate worksheet within the same workbook that I use to track actual queries, and I had to transfer ideas out of my notebook periodically.

Column A contains the names of publications I plan to query. An idea isn’t much use without a market to publish it, so right now my brainstorming is driven by the market. But if there’s an idea I’m dying to write about, I’ll leave column A blank and move onto column B. Once I come up with a market that might be interested in my idea from column B, I’ll fill in column A accordingly.

Column B contains a short summary of each article idea. If the idea is intended for a specific section, I’ll note that in parenthesis. Ideally, I’d like to have several ideas ready to go for each publication, so there might be a row of “X magazine” next to each distinct idea.

Column C contains secondary markets. Say The New York Times doesn’t want my article on hiring trends in small to mid-sized non-profits (a completely hypothetical example, by the way). Instead of getting upset, I’ll move onto the publication listed in column C. Of course, there are a lot of times when editors don’t give a definitive answer (or even an acknowledgement), so I’ll wait a few weeks and move onto the next market. If the ideas really start flowing, I might need to add a column D or E, too.

When it comes to capturing ideas, what organizational strategies work for you?

Flickr photo courtesy of Jacob Botter

I gave in and joined Twitter

I know I resisted because I worried it would become another potential time suck (I still worry about that). But then my freelance idol, Michelle Goodman, assured me it was a worthwhile pursuit. Jenny Cromie and Michelle Rafter blogged about all the cool things you can do with it. Andy Drish gave me a friendly nudge. Even my boyfriend, who is not into blogging or social media but read about it in a news article, asked why I wasn’t doing it.

So now I’m on Twitter.

You can follow me here: @UrbanMuseWriter. I promise not to post inane things like “I’m eating a grilled cheese sandwhich” or “just got home from the gym.” But I am enjoying the creative challenge of writing something meaningful in less than 140 characters. And the fact that there’s so much going on, it’s totally acceptable to miss things. I wish I were that way about Google reader, but I’m thorough to a fault when it comes to reading blogs.

If you’re new to Twitter like I am, then you’ve joined at an exciting time! I’m totally digging other people’s inaugaration tweets. Plus, @mariaschneider just posted two great lists of people to follow on Twitter: 25 good follows for freelancers and 25 publicists/agents/authors. Many more Twitter resources to follow, I’m sure.